Question: As Americans we are inclined to believe that we ought to choose our own spouses, but in many places in the world marriages are still arranged. In a paragraph, brainstorm THREE possible benefits to arranged marriage and explain your ideas.
In Romeo and Juliet, Juliet's parents want to force Juliet to marry Paris; Juliet, obviously, does not want to ober her parents (she's already married afterall...). As readers we might wonder what is better for Juliet: for her to follow her parents' direction or choose a husband for herself.
Question: As Americans we are inclined to believe that we ought to choose our own spouses, but in many places in the world marriages are still arranged. In a paragraph, brainstorm THREE possible benefits to arranged marriage and explain your ideas.
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Joshua Eng
4/19/2012 02:59:06 am
There are three possible benefits to an arranged marriage.
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Derek S.
4/19/2012 03:00:06 am
Sometimes, arranged marriages might be a better choice than choosing the person to marry. First of all, the parents would likely be more experienced in choosing a good spouse (they are married, after all...maybe...). Thus, their experience might have a better outcome than if their child decides for themselves. Also, parents know their child better than anyone else, maybe better than the child knows himself/herself. Also, if the parents want to arrange a marriage with their child, then they would have to come to an agreement with another child's parents. They would only decide to have their child marry someone if the parents got along with each other, thus it would make family conflicts all the less likely.
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Chillin Dylan
4/19/2012 03:00:34 am
Unlike America, most countries in this world have arranged marriage. In a matter of fact, arranged marriage does have benefits, such as the divorce rate is lower because parents are able to choose more logical couples. Another benefit is that the arranged couples have more in common and have similar personalities, most of the time at least. Lastly, parents don't want their children to have a poor spouse, they want a spouse that is capable of helping and sharing with their child, and one that gets along with the family.
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Sam Yin
4/19/2012 03:01:38 am
Arranged marriage can be very beneficial to both the parents and the children. There will be cultural and religious understanding between the wedded children. It will also be impossible for either of the spouses to divorce the other. Finally, the dowry given will make sure that both families are well off for the rest of their lives.
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Sophie E.
4/19/2012 03:02:17 am
The first possible benefit from arranged marriages is on an economic scale. In general, parents choose spouses for their children who are relatively well off in life (money-wise). This will give the children financial security as well as give the parents peace of mind knowing that their child will not starve. Second, arranged marriages allow the child's spouse to be on good terms with their inlaws, because the parents would not have chosen the suitor if he or she were not to their liking. This would get rid of all of the awkward family dinners in which the inlaws are always at odds with the spouse. Lastly, there is a higher rate of divorce among people who did not have arranged marriages. With this in mind, it is more likely that the child would not get a divorce from their arranged spouse. This phenomena is caused by the fact that people aren't influenced by reckless passion that leads to marriage, and therefore are not dissapointed with their spouse after marriage. Also, it tends to be the case that people in an arranged marriage grow to love each other, and can easliy acknowledge the other person's flaws and live with them. And, as a quick side note, one doesn't have to deal with bothersome dating if ones marriage is arranged by one's parents.
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Rochelle Yang
4/19/2012 03:02:54 am
In many countries around the world like India, arranged marriage is still very popular. While it is a very foreign idea in the United States, there are actually quite a few benefits to arranged marriage.
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Anna J
4/19/2012 03:03:16 am
Though choosing our spouse is ideal, there are possible benefits to arranged marriage.
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Virginia Foggo
4/19/2012 07:23:00 am
Parents always have the best interest of there child in mind. They want their kid to be happy while being safe and reasonable at the same time. A parent would choose a spouse who is well off financially and would be able to provide for and protect their child. Also, a parent knows what to look for in their child's spouse. You are ultimately raised to have the same morals and expectations as your guardian, so, for the most part, any person your parent would find suitable, you probably would too. Lasty, you wouldn't have to deal with the pressure and heartbreak associated with searching for your "soul mate." In an arranged marriage, you would never have to worry about your image or your personality; you could just be yourself. You would never have to endure the harsh ups and downs of dating and pre-marital relationships.
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Lia C
4/19/2012 08:38:01 am
Most people today think of arranged marriage as a negative thing, but if you think about it there are some positives to this. One good outcome of an arranged marriage is that the divorce rate is usually a lower percentage, parents know who will suit you best. Ultimately they would find someone they know that would work for you. Another positive thing about arranged marriage is the pressure of looks does not play a role. First impressions are based on looks, so with arranged marriage worrying about keeping up appearances isn't as important. The last benefit of arranged marriage is money will probably not be an issue. Parents would ensure the person they pick for you is ecnomically stable, and has a real job that can support a family. Arranged marriage is not for everyone, but there are some benefits people do not realize.
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Emily W.
4/21/2012 02:12:58 am
Although we are not used to the idea of an arranged marriage, it can actually be a good thing. In arranged marriages I think there would be fewer divorces, happier families and the spouses could possibly be more compatible. I think that there could be fewer divorces in an arranged marriage, because in an arranged marriage the parents would spend time trying to pick the perfect match for their child. They would make sure that they had things in common and that they had a nice family. I think the families would be happy because they know that they picked the right person for their children to marry, so everyone would be happy, assuming the parents did pick the right person for their child. Lastly, the couple would be more compatible because they could have similar interests, likes and dislikes.
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Justin
4/21/2012 03:18:22 am
There are several obvious reasons why arranged marriage can be a good thing. For example, Parents can make a level-headed decision for a spouse based on practical factors such as wealth or education, as opposed to finding a match solely based on good looks or personality. The child can benefit emotionally as well, since he or she will not have to date around and experience multiple heartbreaking breakups to find the perfect match. If all goes well, an arranged marriage can also strengthen ties between families, since most arranged marriages usually involve the parents of the couple meeting.
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Josh K
4/21/2012 03:30:33 am
There are a few reasons why arranged marriages would be beneficial over chosen marriages. First, the marriage would be prosperous to the two parties and their families. If the marriage is being arranged, it is most likely because there is a large amount of wealth at stake. Also, having your marriage arranged would take the stress and hassle out of the process for the two parties. That way, a person can think about things besides whether they'll be a 50-year old spinster or something of the like. For my last point, I'd like to say that arranged marriages would be beneficial for the two parties because they could be married on factors beyond attraction, sense of humor, and things of that nature. While I personally value these things more than others, some parents do not.
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Elijah
4/21/2012 06:41:41 am
There a a few reasons why an arranged marriage can be more beneficial than a non-arranged marriage. Firstly, your parents will try to pick a spouse that is your "perfect match". This is usually chosen based on similarities and personalities. Another reason is that parents may want their child to be married to someone who is wealthy and well-mannered. Marrying someone with these qualities will be more beneficial to the family. Lastly, most parents have more experience in marriage than the child does. They will most likely be able to make a more logical decision about a spouse than their child .
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Taylor
4/21/2012 08:57:41 am
In American we are allowed to choose our spouses, but in some cases; there still is arranged marriages. Three benefits to arranged marriages are less divorces, no economic struggle, and more compatible with you as well as your family.
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Adam
4/22/2012 12:00:36 am
Although arranged marriages are not ideal in America, there are many places in the world where they are the main form of marriage, and there are many benefits to arranged marriage. One benefit to arranged marriage is that it is usually better financially for the family. The parents would try to find someone who is set financially, and in turn that would allow their kids to be safer and be well-fed and taken care of. The second benefit to arranged marriage is that the spouse and their family would be similar to their family. In many American families and with Romeo and Juliet, the families of the couples do not get along and that can cause tension in the marriage. With an arranged marriage, the families would be able to get along better. The third benefit is that divorce is much less likely in an arranged marriage. Many problems arise with a divorce, such as sharing the kids and financial problems, and an arranged marriage will never have the threat of these problems with a low divorce rate. Those are some benefits of arranged marriage.
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Jamie t.
4/22/2012 05:08:52 am
There are many positives to arranged marriages, even if they are not popular on America. First, dating and the Pressure of finding the "right one". Dating can be a long, stressful process and in the end many couples don't end up getting married. An arranged marriage saves you from that process: looking nice all the time, trying to say the right thing. It doesn't really matte when you're already married. Another plus is that divorce is not as likely in arranged marriages because your parents, knowing you quite well, will ultimately pick someone very similar to you. When you're the perfect match, divorce isn't as common. Lately, your parents would hopefully chops someone with a good financial status; someone who can provide for and protect you. A down side to that is they might have looks or the humor but at least they will be food to you financially. So, there are many positives to arranged marriages.
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Andrew L
4/22/2012 05:18:39 am
A possible benefit of an arranged marriage is not needing to worry about dating. That is something that only causes unneeded stress and may end in heartbreak. A second benefit is that your parents, who have far more experience in life than you, are the ones who select who they, the two people who know you better than you know yourself, feel is the best person for their child. Finally, arranged marriages are usually made by wealthy families and involve money. This will make both families and the married couple financially secure for the rest of their lives.
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Beth Feindt-Scott
4/22/2012 06:52:05 am
Benefits to an arranged marriage
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David Y.
4/22/2012 08:28:51 am
In most arranged marriages, they do not have to have to worry about money after they are married because most arranged marriages are based on money and position. One of them would have a wealthy family so both of them do not have to worry about their job based on money. There would be no worry about whether them actually love the person they are marrying since it is an arranged marriage and it would be required for them to marry them. Finally, there is no chance of divorce since they wouldn't divorce in an arranged marriage.
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Kat Mazur
4/22/2012 08:35:10 am
Although I strongly believe that people should have to right to choose whom they want to marry, arranged marriage can have some benefits. First, there is always a large amount of support from the immediate and extended families of the man and woman. Second, the arranged marriage is usually for the benefit of the spouses, so they can live a better life. Third, the marriage is more likely to last long and be stable because the marriage is arranged by mature adults, and if the spouses were to divorce would be a shame to the families.
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Selena Hunter
4/22/2012 09:01:39 am
Three possible benefits for arranged marriages is that the parents will find a spouse that is like you or your family. This is good because then you will get along better with that person. Second, the marriage is more likly to last longer because you are committed to that person for the rest of your life. Finally parents would find a spouse who has good economic status to support your family.
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Holly S
4/22/2012 10:39:20 am
In The United States, we have many freedoms other countries do not have. One being marriage. AN arranged marriage is not always a bad thing though. One benefit of having an arranged marriage is that he will be financially stable. Instead of having a husband thats pay provides a tent and almost no money, you will have a spouse that will pay for all necessary things and you will never feel underpriveleged. Another benefit is that he will automatically be welcomed into your family and will have no problems with them. Your parents will have no complaints with him because they did pick him. Lastly, divorce will be very unlikely. Your parents know you better than anyone else, so they know when a guy is right for you. He will be your other half forever. An arranged marriage would not only be a benefit for these 3 specific things, but benefit your overall happiness.
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Kelly D.
4/22/2012 11:13:34 am
Throughout Romeo and Juliet, one of the main debatable topics is whether it is alright for the two to be married, or whether they are just making a reckless decision because of their age. This leads into one of the reasons that an arranged marriage may be a better method. People could be married at a very young age because the potential for a reckless, “teenage” decision would no longer be a factor. It would always be someone older and more responsible making the decision. Secondly, not only would the choice never be rash but it would never be based off of shallow reasons. Parents would always choose the family that could best provide for their child. Perhaps the girl being married would not be in love but she would always be safe and cared for. The third reason that I believe arranged marriages tend to be more successful is that, in the mind of the married, the possibility that he or she just made a mistake is no longer a factor and divorce is less acceptable and, therefore, less prevalent.
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Alyssa
4/22/2012 11:56:30 am
For the longest time the way marriage was set up was arranged by the parent, whether it be arranging with the future in laws or with the future son in law, it was arranged. Now, there are a few benefits of arranged marriages, one being they cannot fall out of love, for the two were never in love, thus there would be less divorces, (them not being in love, is not to say they were not fond of one another). Another is they would generally be raised with very similar cultural experiences and familiarity is comforting when entering unknown territory. Not to mention in a lot of marriages where theyre arranged when the children are younger, the children grow up together and even become friends which is good in a marriage.
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Jimmy Donoghue
4/22/2012 12:32:03 pm
It is obvious that Juliet could not hold out on her parent's wishes for her to marry for long. She could not live on the streets as a result of disobeying her father, because with her family disowning her and her husband banished, for surely she would live a life of misery and/or die. It was clear to her that she did not want to marry Paris for she realized it would be highly unethical to be married to two men at once, and she did not even know him let alone love him. Juliet made the unwise decision of keeping a secret too large for keeping; her marriage to Romeo. Juliet should have given Paris a chance however. It was unfortunate that she did not realize that her parents love her. They would never force her to marry somebody who they thought would make her unhappy. In addition, the arranged marriage would have brought Juliet away from Romeo possibly if Capulet had discovered his affairs with his daughter. Therefore the tragedy of two young lives lost would have been averted. In addition, Paris was somebody who the Capulets could rely on to keep there daughter safe. Paris wasn't the same nut case that Romeo was running around maddened with romantic fantasies and stabbing himself over Juliet's seemingly dead corpse. If Juliet had married Paris, she would have lived a long life of prosperity. However she chose not to listen to her parent's wisdom and ran off with a fool who would end her life in tragedy.
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